cats as antisocial creatures
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Cats are known for their independence and aloofness. Unlike dogs, they want attention and affection predominantly on their own terms. Coming and going as they please, they oftentimes leave us with the impression that we’re merely here to support their lifestyle. As cat owners, we’ve become accustomed to it. Some cats, however, are actually antisocial, and there could be a number of reasons for it. If you have one, here are some tips for coaxing your kitty into being more sociable.

Patience is a Virtue

First of all, it’s important to note that transforming an antisocial cat into a snuggle bunny takes time and patience and you can’t expedite the process. As with all things feline, they set the pace, and it’s up to you to respect their timetable. Doing so ensures they progress comfortably.


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Environmental Issues

Providing your cat with a safe and comfortable environment free from stress can go a long way toward getting them to loosen up. Make sure your putty tat has all the basics for a healthy, happy life, such as a fresh water supply, nutritious food and a clean litter box. Toys, treats and a scratching post can complete the setting. If their basic needs are met, like all creatures they are more inclined to relax and interact.

Timing is Everything

Speaking of food, eating is one of the things pets seem to look forward to the most. All a cat has to do is hear a can opener and they come running. While your cat is distracted with the joys of indulgence, try gently petting them. If they back up or shy away, don’t rush it. Remember the part about patience? Take your time. Slowly try a little scratch or rub again. Eventually your cat should associate this experience with the positive feeling they get from being fed.


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Seeing Eye to Eye

Animals use body language as a form of communication. With cats, slow blinking is thought to be a reassurance signal conveying the message that they’re comfortable. As crazy as it sounds, try making eye contact with your reclusive kitty periodically and give them a series of slow blinks. Sooner or later your cat may respond to it.

Bonding Through Play

Playing with your pets is a form of bonding. If you can’t entice them with a piece of string, try catnip or getting one of those wands with feathers that you can dangle to encourage them to play. If you have to, get down on the floor on their level. Be patient and consistent over time until the desire behavior is achieved.

You have to realize you may never get your reticent kitty to be a veritable love bug, especially a formerly feral cat. But, by following these tips and a little determination on your part you may be able to break the ice enough to see a measurable change. Good luck!